How to relieve stress if you are under too much psychological pressure

The most effective first step in relieving stress is never to force yourself to get better immediately, but to first allow yourself to "can be stressed." A while ago, I was working on a quarterly project for three consecutive weeks. One day I was squatting downstairs in the company eating breakfast, biting into a bun and suddenly burst into tears. At that time, my first reaction was to scold myself for being useless. I couldn't bear the pressure, so I forced myself to wipe my tears and go back to work. As a result, I couldn't type a word on the document all afternoon, and the more I sat there, the more panicked I became. It was the elder brother who had been in the same department for ten years who passed by and handed me a bottle of iced Coke and said, "Just treat these two hours as something you just fished for. Don't do anything but sit and enjoy the breeze." I didn't care about anything that day. I sat downstairs in the shade of the tree and watched the cleaning lady sweep the fallen leaves, and watched the children after school skipping across the road with their schoolbags on their backs. After sitting for forty minutes and going back, the plan that had been stuck for two days was successfully completed.

Nowadays, many people on the Internet recommend running and mindfulness meditation methods. There are indeed clinical psychology studies that prove that long-term persistence can regulate cortisol levels in the body and help people improve emotional stability. However, many people complain that when the pressure is so high that they don’t even have the strength to get out of bed, and they have to force themselves to go out and run three kilometers, which has become a new burden. In fact, there is nothing to argue about. The appropriate ways to relieve stress are different in different situations. Those methods that require long-term persistence are "daily maintenance products" to help you build a strong psychological defense. When your mood is about to collapse, you don't need to pursue any "rightness". As long as it does not use willpower and can temporarily withdraw you from stress, it will work.

Don’t underestimate this kind of small action that doesn’t seem to be “motivated”. It is actually what is called “perceptual detachment” in psychology. To put it bluntly, it means temporarily cutting off your connection with the source of stress and opening a small hole to let the tense emotions breathe. For example, when you are dizzy in front of the computer, you can count the sound of water flowing for 30 seconds when you go to the tea cup. When you work overtime to the point of collapse, you can stand in the corridor for a minute and watch the stray cats fighting downstairs. When you can’t memorize the book before the student party exam, you can walk around the downstairs of the dormitory twice to buy your favorite food. A while ago, during the last month of her postgraduate entrance exams, my cousin took ten minutes to stand in the corridor and watch the kids on the opposite floor practicing piano. It was these useless ten minutes that kept her from collapsing under the high pressure before the exam, and ended up exceeding the target school score by more than 20 points.

Some people say that decompressing means facing the source of stress head-on. Once the problem is solved, the stress will disappear. This is indeed true, but it also depends on the timing. When you are like a fully drawn bow, if you insist on facing a problem, there is a high probability that you will either break the string or miss the arrow. It is better to spend ten minutes to loosen the strings first, and then solve the problem when your mind is clear, which will be much more efficient. Of course, if you can't eat or sleep well for a week or two in a row, and you can't feel motivated to do anything, don't insist on thinking that you have poor ability to withstand stress. Seek a professional psychological consultation. Just like you need to take medicine when you have a cold, it's perfectly normal to see a doctor if you have a minor emotional problem.